You lost me after "it's easy."

No.

They think the advice or the demand is childish or frivolous while it's purely technical.

For example: "Don't leave magazines near the fireplace" ==> She understand that I don't like the view of magazines all over the place  or that I want her to bring it back to the sleeping room where I plan to read it.
She doesn't understand that it's for safety reason or that it can burn.

Some women would still don't understand the true reason eventhought you would add "because it can be dangerous with the fire".

That's because, in the reverse situation, women would do say "Don't leave the magazine near the fireplace because there it can burn and it's very dangerous" because she wants you to bring it back to the sleeping room where you took it.

Instead of asking "Could you bring the nagazine back to the sleeping room? Because I don't like to search through all the house when I want to read it."
She invents a completely different story hoping for the untold wish to be realized.

This is typicaly women.

HTH
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OK..I relinquish. In some cases that's true. But then you have 'man' - (I studied this with my nephew and a few other male members of my family). Put something on or near the staircase. (It's a practice in my family that if you see something on or near the staircase you take it upstairs with you if you're headed in that direction). I can't tell you how many times the men in my family go up and downstairs forgetting to take the object with them. They don't even see the object. So..I tried putting the item ON the steps.  The result of the experiment remained the same. They maneuver around it. And what do I hear when I stop to question them? "Gee Rachel..I didn't see it." So.. women (at times) refuse to say what they mean. And men (at times) refuse to do as you say. It's a draw..

WOW! Opmod..I never understood all that. And I am really sorry to know you've been hurt so often. I don't have any magicial words to make things better for you or anyone. I truly wish I could. But a thought did cross my mind when reading your post. Maybe you're seeking the same 'type' of woman? I mean..if you're boiling it down to first impressions that have to deal with how a person is physically (you know, whether you'd be intimate or not with her) then you might be making the same mistake over and over again. See what I mean? I know there has to be some sort of physical attraction..but really knowing someone takes a lot of time. And maybe you're moving just a little too fast? And right now..I have to laugh at myself..because I am no expert at this!! I've never dated. I've been asked out a lot..but I don't go. I am wary about a lot of things and I like to take my time before making big decisions. Maybe that's why I like digging around in the dirt..it takes a lot of time and patience. Anyway.. I didn't mean to write a book on this subject. And I really hope that someday you find what you're looking for. Everybody wants to be happy..it's a shame it takes so long to find it.

 


Knights In Shining Armor! We girls love it!!
(At least I and my friends do)

Tell me more!! How was it bizarre..in what way?

Yes I am female. We've been instructed about some of the customs. We're supposed to get some more information on this. Apparently archeaologists and students in this field (women) are somewhat exempt from the dress code while working a dig. But you're right about having to cover up if walking through town. I am excited and just a little nervous about going. I hope we get permission to enter the country because so little of its ancient history is known to the outside world. It was explained to our dept. that armed guards would be escorting us to and from the sites of interest. (I wondered if this was normal practice). Thanks for the information..appreciate it!

Has anyone ever been to Palestine or Iran? The word is.. my archealogy class will be taking a trip over to Palestine in the next few weeks. And from there we will (hopefully) be given permission by the Iranian government to enter the country to start a dig. Just wondered if anyone has ever been there and could give me a few tips?

14..are you OK?

OK Opmod..if that's the case..then why do men get married and have families? Why not stay single and keep..you know what I mean. And if you tell me it's because women pressure them into it..I am going to have to hit you with something.

 Terry..the way you word things. 
1. I am allergic to cologne. 
2. I don't drink..not ever.   
3. Sticky hair on a man is uh..sticky (not very original I know). 
4. I always follow my heart balanced with my good sense. 

But thank you Terry.. 

No..no..it's very good advice Gojira. The secret is..and what many men fail to realize is that 'romance' is the greatest thing most women are searching for. Some men think it's outdated, a sign of weakness, or as some have argued with me, a waste of time. They point out - that romance doesn't work, because once a woman learns the true character of a man she will lose interest. On the contrary..I believe it's a very important part to finding love. Romance is a necessary step..not an eternal stage of life. What I mean by that is.. I know it doesn't last. I mean you can't live your life starry eyed forever. And yes..even romance can't promise you happiness. But these days it's certainly missed. (Most) women are always thinking about it. Why do you suppose the number one selling paperback found in supermarkets are these romance novels? A simple gesture of admiration goes a long way. And right now..my girlfriends are annoyed with me. I've let the secret out.. (I have to laugh..as if you didn't already know...)

How do you encourage a man to understand you? How can women do this? Men tend to think with their heads..women with their hearts.

I was enjoying this up until the last..uh..second

In some ways I have to agree with you. But I still think men and women speak on different levels. And because of this - they have a hard time understanding one another.