You mean logically or rationally? You obviously have feelings about it. I do not pretend that divorce is not harmful, but I think it's way less harmful than a child watching his own parents physically or verbally abuse each other constantly. No one deserves that. Either way children learn what they live.
Statistics do not support your assertion here.
Children of divorce have much higher rates of alcoholism, drug abuse, suicide, depression, prison time and divorce than the average population. In many cases, the higher rates are 3 or 4 times the average (not just some slightly marginal increase of risk).
And of course the 'average' includes all those kids of drunken/fighting parents who didn't divorce. If they were ending up in prison and having sky-high alcoholism, drug abuse rates or suicide rates, then that would be relevant, but apparently there is no data out there saying that.
Like I said, I'm just going with the facts here. The facts are that divorce, if children under 12 are present, is more harmful to children than non-divorce. This statement does not need any special qualifiers to make it valid. It is a naked fact.
My parents divorced as well, but it was before I had a memory of them ever being together. So I don't think it was as traumatic, but even children with both parents living together have problems. Of course it would be a wonderful world if everyone got along and everyone stayed married and raised their kids amazingly well, but we don't live in that world. The population keeps increasing and with more people comes more problems and more divorce.
Personal anecdotal evidence does not negate statistical averages.
99% of child-sex abusers are male. Are you a male? Do you sexually abuse children? You saying "no" doesn't negate the key point that 99% of child-sex abusers are male.
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